Who else loves the holiday season but gets those feelings of panic, tightening chest and continual spiraling thought processes that go something like…“How on earth can I possibly manage 3 holiday parties a week AND keep on track with my goals? Great another event I DON’T want to be at! Or, will I ever have time for myself again?” For me, that list is pretty endless. At least it is when I don’t take control of what I can in those moments.
I recently got back from being on the road for a couple of weeks and have been reflecting on those things that really did help to keep me on track with my own personal goals during that time. Those moments where I could have let something go and enjoyed the moment just a little bit more but, more importantly, I reflected on those moments where I definitely let something go and wish I would have moderated my choices just a wee bit more.
As a health coach, I know how important it is to not only take care of our physical health but also our mental health, as well, ESPECIALLY during the holidays. November 24th-January 1st. Those 5 ½ little weeks.
Something else that I’ve come to recognize, is that I can’t do EVERYTHING myself. I need a little help from my frandz. I get by with a little help from my friends.
From one friend to another, here are my personal tips and tricks for staying on track this holiday season through a little mindful moderation and balance.
1. One word: Goals. That’s right. Get crystal clear on what your goals are NOW. Fitness, nutrition, mental, emotional, you name it. The more specific they are, the more likely YOU are of sticking with them
2. Get a GOOD ol’ fashioned accountability buddy. I know, I know. The concept may sound silly, but believe me. Boy oh boy, can it work. They can help you stay on track and keep you accountable especially if you know you’re the type of person who needs a little outside help and reinforcement.
3. Develop daily rituals that make your soul feel alive and fulfilled and try to stick with them as much as possible during the holidays. That includes those few days at your parents that you know your morning meditation goes out the window. I’m looking at you, girl!
4. Schedule EVERYTHING. Literally. Get our your planner right now. Write down Every. Single. Thing. EVERY event, holiday party, dinner with family, cocktails with work, your friends, with your cats. The sky’s the limit. But, literally, write every little thing down so you can see it all.
Now, the next part may be awesomely empowering or excruciatingly painful, (FOMO anyone?), but this is where the real magic and moderation happens.
Start crossing things off your list.
You heard me right. Which events feel good? Which ones will bring you joy? Also, keep in mind the people attending the actual events, as well.
Now, looking at your list, did any make the cut that seem obligatory? C’mon, we all have that one holiday work event with co-workers we can’t stand. #amiright?!
OR if you really can’t skip anything, mindfully and specifically choose those events that you truly want to savor the moment in and possibly indulge in an extra cocktail or two. Those where you want that piece of Challah Bread or a piece of mom’s pumpkin pie that won’t make you feel guilty.
Be specific and choose those moments, those events with those special people that you truly want to cherish and indulge in. Because that’s what we remember. Those moments that fill us with joy and that make our heart soar.
5. Now that you’ve gotten clear on those events that you want to let yourself live a little at, go over each one and see where your goals will fit into the scenario and where they may need to shift a little. Sometimes that chocolate pumpkin French toast that you’ve been craving for months is just oh so worth it and other times, that 5th glass of champagne may not be ideal in the long run. Or, i.e., maybe one party you KNOW you need to drink at, (family events anyone?), maaaybe you select another event where you sip on a cool club soda with a splash of cran instead?. Just spit balling here.
Remember, it’s okay to let your plan veer slightly if it is hindering some of your happiness. Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. We all want to live our best lives, especially around this time of year with family and friends. It’s just much more empowering when we choose those moments. And not the other way around.
“Fail to plan. Plan to fail.”
There’s a reason that saying still holds up and I believe in every word of it.
I hope this helped give you some tips for how to live more mindfully this holiday season.
Cheers and Happy Holidays!